This may sound too cliche. Love is a feeling that has brought joy to the lives of many people. Whether we admit it or not, it is a feeling that can effect changes to a person. He will be inspired to do better on a lot of things. When a person is in love, it awes him that everything around him is beautiful. I know. Totally cliche. But, very true.
However, to others, love can be such a pain it troubles them deeply. It wreaks havoc in their lives. I don’t know. Must love be the culprit? Or people’s attitudes? I’m sure there must be deep reason why people who use to declare undying love for each other suddenly finds that they HATED each other.
I caught up this celebrity in an afternoon television program last Sunday crying her heart out and pouring her emotions about her relationship gone bad. I remember her getting married to the same man two months back. And, now, the wedding was in the process of dissolution. Where was the promised love? Much more the vow?
I am not some love guru here. But, let me just share how me and the husband had been sharing “love” for the past 28 years.
Loving is trusting
In the first place, let honesty play its part. Let the relationship rest on solid foundation. Doubts and insecurities can cause a relationship to suffer. Staying honest and truthful place your partner to weather all fears. And, everything that comes trying to break the relationship will not triumph.
Earn the respect
We are but human beings. We errs. The thing is, in a relationship one should be free to talk and voice out whatever emotions we are going through. And, I guess, the other partner should be willing to respect that and vice versa.
There’s nothing better than an open communication. No problem can not be resolved by letting your partner what’s the trouble, the confusion or whatever is there in your mind. By making a path to create a conversation, even the littlest thoughts and issues can be settled. And, yes, a relaxed and informal conversation sometimes do the most magical thing in a relationship. Because, it’s an avenue to know more about one another.
Loving is loving oneself
Not trying to evoke self-centeredness here. How can a person love somebody when he is alien to the feeling? Loving yourself means taking care of your physical and emotional condition. That will include trying to live a healthy lifestyle because you wanted to share more blissful life with your partner. When you are loving yourself, you will become emotionally sensitive to the feelings of your partner. As the old aphorism goes: Hate thy hurt, and you’ll hate to hurt, too. Then, you’ll start to share in the art of loving.
For all these things, I have been sharing to my husband of 7 years of togetherness plus 21 years of marriage. Ours is not a perfect relationship. But, in the days we are together, we’re making it a point to grow fondness of each other by sharing life and love’s trials.
Happy in love.
Cliche? Ain’t it gonna break. For sure.